... is the title of an article on Poynter.org that was brought to my attention by a real live obit writer from The Plain Dealer (Cleveland, OH). Thanks! (I'd rather not mention their name, they may not want to be associated with the site.)
There are lots of sites that explain the process of writing an obituary, but most of them suck. They explain the obit as a dry boring series of factual events. This article by Don Fry explains more of how to make the tribute special:
The secret of fascinating obits is pushing the resume into the background.It's a nice piece and well worth reading if you want to pursue this exercise.